Building Your Self Esteem
Progress in my life has been dogged by very low self esteem – always as a child put down by my mother and lately by my husband.
Do I have to go through life like this? Help!”
PJ, London, UK
First of all, I’d like to commend you for writing to ask for help. That’s an excellent step towards taking charge of your life now, and becoming more confident in asking for your needs to be met. Also, acknowledging that sometimes you feel less good about yourself is another healthy step towards building your self worth and love for yourself. And, be assured, if you decide to do so, then you can certainly change the way you go through life.
Now I’m going to make an assumption that since you’re asking for advice, you have decided that you want to make changes in the way you are going through your life. I’m also going to assume that you’re prepared to consider the suggestions that may be offered to you – and when you choose, to take action on those suggestions.
As I can’t ask you directly how you would define self-esteem, then let me describe what self-esteem means to me both professionally and personally.